DEAR COLLEGEHOCKEYGF

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What's your major?

My name just means that I'm dating a college hockey player. I've already graduated university with a degree in health studies and gerontology.

How to deal with puck sluts hitting on your boyfriend.. How to stay confident and feel secure.

You just have to let yourself know that you're better than them and your boyfriend knows it too. I always find it humorous whenever I see a girl hitting on my boyfriend at a party because I know they're about to get shut down hard. But then again - if it's the way your boyfriend acts when girls hit on him that doesn't make you feel secure or confident, then you need to take to him about that.

What's your boyfriend's history with hockey? Which leagues did he play in?

I'm not going to go into details about where he's playing as I'd like to stay as anonymous as possible out of respect for him. He played juniors in Canada.

How long have you and your boyfriend been together? Since a lot of girls chase after hockey guys, how did you two make it work?

My boyfriend and I have been together for just over six years now. I don't really know how to answer that question! I don't really think there is an easy way to answer how we've been able to make our relationship work. We both love each other (obviously) and we're both very committed to our relationship. But I think a lot of it has to do with how my boyfriend is. There really aren't that many guys out there who are like my boyfriend, especially while playing juniors or college. When it comes to girls chasing after hockey guys, he doesn't care for them and doesn't pay any attention to girls who try to grab his attention.

If you can't afford all the latest trends, what are some key pieces to have in your closet? Maybe some that are also rink friendly.

A leather Moto jacket, a tailored black blazer, and an oversized knit cardigan. Having a pair of black ankle booties is essential to my wardrobe, but tall leather boots are great as well, so I would go with whatever is more your style. I also love a cropped black pant for the spring and Fall. Black cropped pants with ankle booties and a knit would be a great outfit for the rink. Having a good pair of jeans in a classic wash and a classic grey or white tee is good to have as well. Also, if you're in the market for a new coat for next Fall/Winter I would go with a long (oversized if you like that style) coat in camel. Happy shopping!

I know you've done looks for the rink regarding clothes but how about some makeup looks. Sometimes I like to wear lipstick or tinted chap stick to the games. Do you think that's too much?
No, I definitely don't think that's too much. I love a great lip colour. I like a simple, natural look for the face at the rink because the arena lighting is so awful. When I apply my makeup I moisturize, apply under-eye concealer and concealer if needed, shimmering bronzer to my cheekbones, forehead, bridge of my nose and chin, and then some loose powder to set it. For eyes I keep it simple with liquid liner on my top lash and mascara. Then I have my bold pinks, reds, and neutral lip colours either as a lipstick or tinted lip balm - so I'm all for wearing colour on your lips to games. But just a tip: if you're wearing a bold lip colour (like red) keep your eye makeup simple. If you're doing a smokey eye, wear a more neutral lip colour.


Any advice about trust issues? My boyfriend and I are in an LDR (he's playing juniors and I'm in college ten hours away) and he doesn't trust me at all even though I've never done anything to betray his trust. We've also been dating for almost two years, so I don't understand.
I find that trust can be tricky for some guys. I don't know your boyfriend's dating history, but it wouldn't surprise me if he's been burned in a past relationship. Since you've never done anything to betray his trust it's not like there's anything you can do to regain his trust. I think the only thing you can do is talk to him about it, ask him what he's basing his feelings off of, and tell him to be specific. Try sending a random "I really love you" text or say it over the phone/FaceTime/Skype and maybe it'll help put his mind at ease.


Last week for my birthday my boyfriend got me a custom team jersey from his team with his number and then it says "Dylan's Girl" on the back. His next home game is next week and I don't know if I should wear it, or stick to only wearing it around the house & stick with my usual cute game outfit? Help!
I take it that you're a fairly recent twitter follower of mine, haha :) I am personally against girlfriends wearing jerseys to their boyfriend's games. Do you know if your boyfriend gave you it for you to wear to games, or just as a cute gift to have? My advice would be to stick with wearing your usual cute game outfit. Good luck to him next weekend.



Do guys ever randomly shout out/say rocket when an (attractive) girl walks by?
I can't say that I've ever heard a guy yell out "rocket" to a girl passing by before. When I'm out with my boyfriend's team mates or friends and an attractive girl walks by, they check her out then say amongst themselves something like "she's a rocket" or just flat out say they think she's hot. But no, they don't shout it out.


Girlfriend attire for games! Just wear a cute outfit? Can you pair it with a hat with the school name/logo on it? Should you not wear school logo attire? Help!

I love questions like this! Yes, a cute, chic yet comfy outfit is perfect. I'm really into wearing my faux leather leggings with an oversized chunky knit and my peacoat paired with my ankle booties this season. Everyone knows how I feel about girlfriends wearing jerseys to game. But I wear my knit beanie to a lot of games now, and while I've never worn any school logo attire to a game, I don't see any harm in wearing a hat with the school name or logo on it.

How do you think hockey boys feel about dating a figure skater?

I don't know. I mean, I'm not a figure skater so I don't really understand what you mean by this. But I don't see why dating someone who does figure skating would be something hockey players would be opposed to.

My best guy friend is a hockey player and I "like" him a lot. My friends say that he likes me too and he might ask me out soon. These "puck sluts" in my school have been calling me some nasty things because of it. Does it annoy you when "PS's" think they're the only ones who can date the hockey players?

Can I tell these girls to shut it for you? "Puck sluts" are annoying to see at games (yet fun to laugh at), but I don't let them bother me. Because really, they think all the guys want them when little do they know, no guys actually want to date a "puck slut." They may use them for sex, but that's about it. They aren't girlfriend material. To be honest, I think they're calling you these nasty things because they're jealous. Don't let it get to you. I hope everything works out with you and your friend :)

How do you deal with a new hockey girlfriend that is constantly trying to become part of your circle? This girl is nothing more than a groupie, and causes so much drama it's unreal, but we have to see her and her annoyances every game day. Help!

Awk. I know what it's like to not like one of the girlfriends. Last season I found one of the girlfriends to be quite rude, but I've recently tried to give her a chance and I've stayed open minded about it and she's actually pretty nice. I think the last thing you want to do is start something, so I wouldn't make it known to her that you really dislike her. I think that would just create more drama that you don't want and I'm sure your boyfriend's wouldn't like that either. When you see her on game days, you don't have to have a full out conversation with her but just try being civil. If she's nothing more than a "groupie" then she probably won't last long.

Tips for making friends with the other hockey girlfriends!

Believe it or not, I don't actually have any tips. I've always found it easy to become friends with the other girlfriends. Through juniors and college, the first time I've met all the girlfriends was at team parties. I think I met maybe two at games. If you're at a party and you haven't been introduced yet, go up and introduce yourself. 

At the first team party I went to this year before the season started, there was a new girlfriend there and it was a bit awkward because we were hanging out in one of the guy's rooms with a few people and we hadn't been introduced yet. So I went up to her and said "Hi I'm _____" After that we started talking and before I left, we were making plans to see each other at the home opener. I find that when I first meet a new girlfriend, we'll sit down, have a few drinks and start talking, and by the end of the night it's like we're besties. Just start a conversation with the other girlfriends and let it go from there.

When you aren't able to to attend a team party, how do you react? Like not text your boyfriend or what?

Well this question is very vague and I'm not quite sure what you mean by it. Do you mean if you aren't able to attend because you're busy or can't go visit him, or that you aren't able to attend because you weren't invited or "no girlfriends allowed" (which is totally lame) type of thing? And do you mean not texting your boyfriend because you're mad at him for not being able to go to the party, or do you mean not texting him because he's at a party and you don't want to bombard him with texts? 

I've never experienced not being allowed to go to a team party so I honestly don't know how I would react to it. But if that is the case for you, I wouldn't just not text your boyfriend because you're mad/upset about it. That will just create arguments that you don't want to have. And if this is the case, just know that it's not your boyfriend's "rule."

 If you aren't able to go because you're busy and can't make it, I would still text him. Send him a text at the beginning of the night telling him to have fun and that you love him. You can text him throughout the night saying "Miss you!" or "Hope you're having a good time!" But don't be the girlfriend who sends texts every two seconds asking "what are you doing who are you with." Sending texts like that will just make your boyfriend not want to text you back. Hope this helps.

I'm living in the same town as my boyfriend after having a LDR in the past. It's WAY different and he acts WAY different on campus (guess I never saw this side of him before because we were apart). HELP on how to handle this without seeming crazy or needy!

Well I hope it isn't a completely bad "WAY different" like he's a totally different person or something. I honestly don't even have any good advice for this, I'm sorry! I think the only thing you can do is talk to him about it and let him know how you feel about it. If he gets mad, just let him know you aren't trying to attack him with it. He might know that he acts differently around campus than he does with you. You just need to be upfront with him and let him know how you feel.

Is it acceptable to go to all the home games? And what about watching practices?

Girl, am I ever glad you asked me this. Yes it is totally acceptable to go to all the home games, but do NOT go watch practices. Going to watch practices is so unnecessary and honestly, the guys will probably make fun of you for it. Just stick to games!

I've been a college hockey girlfriend for over a year now, but I recently moved in with him. Problem is, I rarely see him and his season hasn't even started yet! I guess I'm used to the LDR that I didn't realize how busy he truly is. I'm lonely and only have a few new friends from my new school.. HELP!

Lucky you that you get to live with him! But I know what you mean about how busy they are even when the season hasn't started yet. When the other girlfriends are in town and your boyfriends are busy, definitely make plans together. But I would also get involved in some school events to keep yourself busy and meet some people through that. I'm sure as the year goes on you will make more new friends as well. 

I'm the new girlfriend and will be at tonight's game.. alone, yay me. All my friends had plans. What do I do?

There's absolutely nothing wrong with going to your boyfriend's games alone! I used to sit alone all the time (or with my dad) when my boyfriend played juniors. I honestly prefer/enjoy sitting alone. I find that when I sit with some of the girlfriends now, they like to talk a lot and I'm the kind of person who just likes to sit there and watch the game without saying a word. That way I can actually talk to my boyfriend about his game. So don't worry about going to his game alone, you'll meet the other girlfriends soon enough. Who knows, you might find that you like sitting by yourself.

My boyfriend's ex was there for him through a lot of major hockey changes, but was never supportive. Now we are together and in a LDR. I'm new to the whole "hockey girlfriend" scene. I need tips! I support him as much as I can 1000 miles away. Will I be stuck in her shadow?

I don't think you'll be stuck in her shadow, especially if his ex was never supportive of his hockey. You supporting your boyfriend as much as you can from being that far away probably means more to him than you'll ever know. Continue doing what you're doing. Ask him about his games, goals, assists, etc. or talk to him about them if you were able to watch online. You can even ask him about practices or his workouts. My boyfriend loves telling me about those things. Just continue supporting him like you have been.

My boyfriend is new to his college hockey team, so here I am, the new girlfriend. It's going to be hard to fit in and even harder that when I go to meet these girls I will be showing. Not to mention I'm 19 and pregnant. What do I do?

Honestly don't worry about anything. Just go meet the other girlfriends like you would normally meet someone. To be honest, I'm sure your boyfriend's team mates already know everything and their girlfriends might as well. You'll find that hockey boys are very welcoming to their team mate's girlfriends. If you're still nervous about meeting them, just know that your boyfriend will be by your side.

My boyfriend is playing college hockey for the first time. It's tough, he hasn't even been gone for a week and I miss him so much. It's weird that I don't get to see him every day, how do I cope?

I know it's tough when you go from seeing your boyfriend all the time to not knowing when you can see him next. I think one of the biggest things that will help you cope is planning FaceTime/Skype calls with your boyfriend. Whether it be a short daily FaceTime call before bed, or a longer weekly Skype sesh. Being able to hear his voice will make you so happy.

My boyfriend just aged out of juniors and is now going to play college hockey. I was lucky to have him close while he was in juniors but now we have to take on a LDR while he is away at college. Is it appropriate to put together a care package or is that too cheesy?

I don't think it's cheesy if you put together a care package with useful things in it - like some of his favourite snacks, movies, etc. I'll sometimes get my boyfriend a Starbucks gift card or more shampoo/spray-in conditioner for his hair if I know he's getting low on that. You can write him a note in it, but if you fill the care package with love letters, then yes, I would find that to be a bit cheesy.

My boyfriend and I used to go to hockey games at our university all the time. We recently broke up, but I still love hockey (always have, always will). If I go to games alone or with girl friends this year, will I be deemed a puck bunny?

It's such a shame that some girls have totally ruined it for those of us who are actually fans of the game, and not just the players. You should definitely still go to games. Don't even worry about being labelled as anything. College/university games have tons of fans from the surrounding area and tons of students in the student section. Go with your girl friends and have fun!